Genesis 2:18-20, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.”
A definition of the word help is "to give or provide what is necessary to accomplish a task or satisfy a need; to contribute strength." A definition of the word hinder is "to be an obstacle or impediment."
Notice the above verses do not just say an help, but an help meet. They do not say helpmate like some try to say, rather, they say help meet. The definition of the word meet is “precisely adapted to a particular situation, need, or circumstance.” So we see that God gave Adam a wife to contribute strength that was precisely adapted to his particular situation and need. In other words, He gave him a help that was fitting for him, right for him.
Similarly, “meet” would also indicate that man and woman are not to be unequally yoked. Unequally means "not the same in any measurable aspect; unbalanced." The definition of yoked is "to join, couple, link, or unite." 2 Cor.6:14, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" Through rightly dividing the Word, it is plain that Christians should not consider marrying non-Christians.
The first step to marriage in our culture is dating. If we are not to marry unbelievers, we should not consider dating them either. To date someone outside your faith is to invite disaster, and beyond that, not everyone who goes to church is really saved. Not everyone who says, “I’m saved,” is actually born again, but if so will bear fruit over time as evidence of true salvation.
An example of this is a couple who met and married years ago. The girl was raised in the church and would not date anyone who was not saved, who did not hold to the same beliefs. This young man really liked her, so he started coming to church with her and got “saved.” He then convinced her to marry him but shortly resumed his sinful lifestyle. She remained committed to him until death, as she should have, but she had to live her Christian life alone, attending church without him much of the time.
This is not how God intended it to be. Marriage is important to God. The devil knows this and would love nothing more than to see every person unequally yoked and their Christian walk hindered. As he sees his time here coming to an end, he is waging all out war on the home, families, marriages. He wants to put a hindrance where God intended a fitting help be.
With every dating relationship, we must look beyond the moment and ask ourselves a few questions: Can I see the Lord being pleased if I ended up married to this person? Am I thinking, “I can change him (or her),” or “We’re just dating!”? Dating and marriage should not be entered into lightly but should be prayed about with sincerity and the Word of God followed. Are you in a dating relationship that can help or hinder you?
1John 1:5- This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.
-[Destiny Turner]
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